It may look like I'm sad, but really I'm just plotting my next move!
Today has really stunk 
After riding a three day high from my 100 day challenge post I hit a serious wall in the form of getting wait listed for the incubator I had applied for.
It could have been the fact that I applied 3 hours before the deadline was due or maybe it was because I filmed the ‘introduce yourself’ video in my Grandmother’s bathroom (I’m traveling and had no quiet space!), but regardless getting that wait listed email was a serious blow to my self esteem and temporarily shook my on a mission-ness.
But I realized – after I had a quick cry in the Starbucks bathroom (why do I spend so much time here!) – that I could either cry about it or I could adopt a screw you attitude and turn all my disappointment into the fiery rage that burns deep in the heart of most great entrepreneurs. Tell me I can’t do something and by damn I’ll show you a way that I can and make it bigger than ever.
Anyhow, this isn’t supposed to be a Maren-fest, instead I want to encourage those of you who feel like the World has kicked you in the coins one time too many that you can either let that self doubt crush you or turn it into the fuel that builds a business empire.
Using Sadness, Anger and Jealously for Good!
Often we hear how bad negative feelings are – you’re not supposed to be envious, angry, jealous or resentful – and I’ll agree, they’re not great emotions. BUT the majority of us have to deal with them at some point, and often when you’re in the middle of building a business that will change your life – you have to deal with them a lot. So you can either read hippy poems and try to ‘smell the roses’ or you can take all those negative emotions and recycle them (see we’re being green!) into fuel for a fire that’ll burn deep inside you.
This fire will be what sees you through the toughest times and what eggs you on when things get rough. It’ll be what pushes you to go beyond what anyone would think humanly possibly – and to succeed more times than not. Most great companies started because a fire burnt deep within one of the founders, mine burns hot and long. It’s been compounded from years of feeling like I had something major to offer the world and every time I hit a wall (like today) I ball up all those sad/angry/upset emotions and compress them into a tiny cube of rocket fuel. Fuel that will last me the next 6 months as I fight on towards my dream of building a $100 million dollar business empire (note in how to consistently make $33,333.33 a month I said I wanted to personally walk away with ten million – not necessarily that that’s all my biz empire would be worth).
Build a Bridge
Cry me a river, then build a bridge and get over it. It’s one of my favorite sayings and though harsh, very true. There are two kinds of people in this world – those who bitch about everything and think the World owes them a free ride and a coke… And those who get sad, pissed or cry, then figure out a way to overcome and impress all the people who thought they couldn’t do it.
Let’s be the bridge builders, not the coke wanters. We have waaaay too many of them anyhow. Plus it gets easier, the more you look adversity in the face and say ‘screw you’ the more you’ll get used to it. Then adversity will stop stinging so much and you’ll start jumping into gear far faster. Eventually you’ll become such a juggernaut of pure creative power that you’ll crush any obstacles that stand in your way on your collision course with destiny.
Good luck my loves, I’m off to kick a tree and then get back to work!
