In this post I will demystify the beauty, elegance & power behind saying no early and often. A power I have just recently harnessed and it is transforming my business and life in amazing ways already.
Who knew that just putting your foot down (sometimes even to yourself) and hollering no like a 2 year old could catapult you to new levels of success and adventure?
Well now that the secret’s out let me break down exactly how you should say no, when you should say no and why that beautiful, little 2 letter word will totally transform your existence.
The Power of No
First, let me tell you what led to my “No!!!!!!” moment. A few months ago I realized that I was technically running about 4 separate businesses at the same time – even though I strongly preach against this (I know, I’m a hypocrite <insert sad face>).
Because of this I was constantly stressed out and fighting within myself when it came on what to focus on for the day, so finally out of desperation I closed the computer and went to my closet… and I started saying “no”.
My closet was my first step towards ridding my life (and business) of anything I wasn’t “in love” with and add heaps of value to my life. Don’t ask me why I started there, I just did, but boy howdy the freedom I felt when I had bagged up 4 hefty’s worth of clothing, shoes and accessories I didn’t use was unreal.
From my closet I started extending outward – purging my life of everything I didn’t use religiously and love passionately. Finally I got around to my desk and business(es). I began to purge and I have finally gotten to the point where I’ve crossed the threshold and can see the promised land (gotta love the Moses references).
I have cut down from 4 business(es) to 1 (curious, find out what it is here!)
Singularity of Purpose = Singularity of Focus
I’ve realized that I have a “purpose” in the types of businesses I’m attracted to and the general direction of my life. I am in love with the concept of changing the way the world works by using the power of the inter-web to connect good workers with good hirers (not sure if that is a word grammar geeks – don’t have a hissy).
Because of that focus when I do other things I’m not as happy, not as productive and generally not pleasant to be around. So I had to learn to say NO to everything and everyone who wanted me to focus on anything outside of this arena.
You probably have this to, one area that you are in love with. You may not be currently working in that arena and if that’s the case I’d suggest you take the plunge and do everything in your power to get as close to the market you’re enamored with as possible.
Say No, Early and Often
Virtual Zeta is my baby, it was the business I by far loved the most months ago and because of weeding out EVERYTHING else it’s finally become the business I can spend most of my time on and because of that it’s starting to thrive.
That’s right 1 business – not 2 – not 7 – not 11 “projects”. Just one. It’s amazing. It’s like a breath of fresh air while riding a flying unicorn and huffing pixie dust at the same time (note: don’t try this at home).
So say no to anything and everything that isn’t perfectly aligned w/ your n. 1 business or personal goal. Then start extending out, say no to things in your life you don’t love or feel “stuck” with… rid yourself of the extra baggage saying “yes” too much can saddle you with – and say no… no, no, no, no, no.