People who achieve their goals are people who believe in themselves. No one can accomplish what they set out to do if they don’t actually believe they can do it, if they believe they will fail along the way.
It’s no coincidence that successful people are confident people – you have to have one in order to build up to the other. When examined in this straightforward light, of course it makes sense that those who are confident in themselves and their abilities will be able to find their way to the success they seek. It takes a lot of hard work, and it takes learning from failure, but if you don’t have confidence in yourself that you are capable of doing hard work – or of getting back up after a failure – then you will not reach the end goal and be the successful person you want to be.
Whether that success is becoming a better athlete, expanding a business, climbing a mountain, learning a new skill, or any other goal you have set out for yourself, you can only attain it by believing that you can.
There have been various scientific studies that back up the fact that self-confidence is directly related to success. I quote:
“A decade or so ago, a couple college professors at Florida State University used a survey of more than 4,000 students to gauge their intellectual and social confidence, their expectations for success, their motivation to succeed, past academic accomplishments, parental education, and so on. Admittedly, a lot of the variables were interlocking. But the study concluded that having a high expectation that you’d succeed was the strongest predictor of actual high performance. Self-confidence was also correlated to doing well in school.”
“Psychologists have long known that intelligence isn’t the only predictor of scholastic achievement and that intellectual confidence does a good a job of predicting grades as well. “There has been a very, very big lobby within educational psychology against the notion of IQ,” says Chamorro-Premuzic. “And part of this lobby has been based on the idea that self-perceptions matter more than actual ability.””
“There exists positive significant relationship between intelligence and self-confidence in respect of secondary school students and boys, whereas for girls no such relationship exists. Intelligence relates significantly with academic achievement of the students of secondary school as well as boys and girls taken separately. As for as gender differences concerned it was found that for intelligence and academic achievement gender differences exist.”
Dealing With Failure
Michael Jordan – regarded by many as the greatest basketball player of all time – said, “I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed.”
There are many examples of Jordan’s failings, of the times when he fell short. He was cut from his high school team because his coach didn’t think he was a strong enough player. Failure helps to “toughen” a person up, helps them to have the confidence that they can learn something every day and with every trial.
If Jordan hadn’t been confident in his ability to improve and if he hadn’t been able to see that an overall success is built upon a foundation of small failures, he never would have been able to ultimately become as legendary as he is now. Jordan has missed more than 9,000 shots in his career, lost almost 300 games, and on 26 occasions has been entrusted to take the game winning shot, and missed. But none of these failures has taught him to simply lie down and accept his fate of being a “less than perfect” ball player.
In fact, Jordan knows that confidence is a process about progress, not about perfection.
If you don’t learn how to deal with failure, you will never know success when it comes along. Confident people also have the ability to recognize their successes, because they see that the learning that occurs along the path to reaching a goal is a success in and of itself. Confident people know that their abilities are what got them there and that they have the aptitude to carry themselves further than they thought possible before, because they can reflect on how far they’ve come.
Confident people are able to regard their minor victories for what they are – victories – and ultimately build upon them to achieve the greatest level of success they can dream of.
Leading Others To Success
People are more naturally willing to follow others that they see as confident leaders. Vince Lombardi, the Professional Football Hall of Famer and renowned NFL coach, was quoted as saying “Confidence is contagious. So is lack of confidence.” To be a leader, you must have confidence in yourself and your abilities, and you must be able to display confidence in others and help them boost up their own self-confidence so they can enliven their potential and achieve greatness.
Most people are not successful on their own, and no one is successful in a vacuum. It can take hard work and the dedication of an entire team building one another up in order to achieve great success. But every team needs a strong leader to keep focus and inspire everyone to be motivated. Whether you intend to lead others or not, you will end up being someone that people will follow because your internal spark of confidence will cause people to wholeheartedly believe in you as much as you believe in yourself.
Whether you are a leader of a team or a team member that is working toward a common goal, you need to be able to keep your focus on the finish line, and to have the resolution to do what is best for everyone in order to reach it. This means not only having the confidence in yourself and your own abilities, but keeping others optimistic about the hard work everyone is putting in, the contributing factors and obstacles that the entire team is encountering on the way to reaching the goal, and the support network you have in one another in order to get the job done.
Success is not reached by standing on the backs of others, but by a group with varied talents working together to achieve together.
Striving To Succeed On Your Own
“Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence,” said Helen Keller. She was born both deaf and blind and it was only through dedication that she became able to communicate with the outside world. She eventually went on to earn her Bachelor’s of Arts degree and become a published author and political activist. If she had not had confidence in her own abilities, if she had not had this persevering optimism, she would not have been able to overcome her limitations and expand her world outside her own mind.
However, she knew that she could achieve great things, and once she set her mind to it, she did.
If you are working alone toward a personal success, you will find that confidence in yourself will help you get much further than pessimism. Again, it’s no easy task to accomplish a measure of success on your own, but your belief in yourself can contribute to whether you ultimately succeed. People who effectively reach the goal-line do so because they were realistic about their potential and their ability to fulfill it, and they keep an optimistic attitude in addition to their confident outlook.
Anyone can achieve their goals, if they have the confidence in their own potential and the wherewithal to dedicate themselves to the hard work it will take. Successful people are confident people – there’s no doubt about it – and having the confidence in yourself to begin to work toward your goal is inevitably the first step toward success.
About The Author: Diggy is a confident, successful young man who enjoys travel, business and spending time with his friends. He uses his own experience to teach others how to be confident and even has exclusive confidence tips for women. If you want to become more confident then be sure to subscribe to Diggy’s Flawless Confidence newsletter.